We had given ourselves the time frame of a year from that point, because that seemed far enough away that it was safe, because the concept of getting married was a little freaky. Since neither one of us had been planning on getting married, I think having that kind of time frame allowed us to wrap our minds around the concept without feeling panicked.
At the end of the spring semester, I had decided to go pursue an adventure selling pest control door to door in Vegas. That means Emily and I were planning on not being together for several months. Originally we had agreed that Emily would try and date around as much as possible. As time went on, she decided she didn't really want to date around, and I wasn't exactly going to try and convince her otherwise.
While I was in Vegas we actually didn't spend more than a week without seeing each other. Emily came down to St. George and I drove over to see her, and another time I stopped and saw her on my way to Rexburg to do some job hunting because I realized I came to Vegas at almost the end of the sales season, plus the job wasn't really for me.
After almost a month, I decided to move back up to Rexburg, and I was able to see Emily much more often. It's a good thing I did that, I honestly don't know how we would have survived several months of being apart. I'm such a pansy. I don't know how people wait for missionaries for several years.
While I was doing my Vegas thing, we decided maybe July was too far in the future, and we decided to move the wedding to April instead. To try and make a long story short, we continued to spent a huge amount of time with each other after the next semester started, and around August or September, we decided there's no reason to wait so long, and we moved it up to December. We no longer had the safe, far away date that we didn't have to worry about quite yet. Needless to say, we proceeded to start freaking out.
December seemed super close, but as little more time went by, Emily mentioned something about moving it up to Thanksgiving, and I had to think about it for a while, but I eventually came to the conclusion that although we would have no money, we would be happier if we got married sooner.
I then suggested we just do it in early November, three weeks before Thanksgiving, so that our family wouldn't have to change any Thanksgiving plans. We're so glad that we didn't have to wait, we were very ready to be married. We had gone over a book of 1001 questions to ask before you get married, and had talked about many, many issues of marriage, such as what to do on the holiday, how were were going to parent our kids, among many other things. We talked and talked about things. We would often get together and read a chapter of a book such as the Chronicles of Narnia and then talk for hours. We began to feel ready to just get married and see what it would actually be like. We were very aware that marriage can be very very challenging, but we had done all we could to prepare, and it was time to just do it. You can't merely speculate forever, eventually you just have to act.
So we got married. We had a very nontraditional wedding, which we were so happy with.
To be continued...
Friday, November 25, 2011
Monday, November 21, 2011
The Story of Us
Emily and I met last January because we happened to be in the same class. We acknowledged each other, but that was as far as conversation ever went. We sat by each other, never imagining we would be married in less than a year.
I had dated a lot during my previous year of school, mostly just for the fun of it. I was the cocky guy who asked a girl out every week, and I had lots of really, really fun dates. However, over the course of the year, I must have realized that I was asking out a lot of girls that I didn't care that much about. That is when I proceeded to develop a system of not asking girls out, and that way I was able to have fun AND save money . It was pretty awesome.
I hadn't really asked a girl out for a couple months when I met Emily. I just remembered her as a cute girl in one of my classes, and left it at that for a while. There were several other girls I was thinking about, plus, I wasn't really into asking girls out anymore. It was all about hanging out at that point.
It was a pretty gradual thing, I began losing interest in the other girls, and Emily and I began talking a little bit more. I noticed that not only was she very attractive and quite stylish, but she had brains too. She literally got 100% on ever test in that class. That's when I asked "ummm do you want to study with me? (cheesy grin)"
We would study once a week, and I started getting 100% on my tests as well! That went on for several weeks, and I finally decided to ask her on a little datey date. I had started thinking it was cool if I only plan the first half of the date, and then we'd spontaneously figure out what to do after that. My reasoning is that it helped me get to know the girl better. So the part I planned was taking her to learn some latin dancing. After we were done I thought "oh, crap why didn't I plan anything?", but then we had the idea to go check the artwork around the Taylor building on campus. It was really fun, and it impressed me that she had fun with that. Typically girls her age are only interested in the latest pop song and substance deficient TV shows.
We started going on a date every week or so, and we continued to study together once a week. We didn't start hanging out every single day, to get married in a few months. Nope, we would do something twice a week, and then hang out with our roommates and other friends the other days of the week. That went on for 3 or 4 months. We still weren't even close to thinking about marriage.
During the next semester, we started hanging out a bit more. After a couple months of spending time with each other much more frequently, we eventually admitted that we could see us getting married sometime in the far, far future. A couple weeks later, we set a time frame for the next July, a little more than a year from then. See, neither one of us had been looking to get married. See, I kind of enjoyed being single, and I had always wanted to wait until I was at least 26 to get married, and I know Emily had similar feelings, especially considering her age. Well obviously our plan didn't work the way we thought it would.
To be continued....
I had dated a lot during my previous year of school, mostly just for the fun of it. I was the cocky guy who asked a girl out every week, and I had lots of really, really fun dates. However, over the course of the year, I must have realized that I was asking out a lot of girls that I didn't care that much about. That is when I proceeded to develop a system of not asking girls out, and that way I was able to have fun AND save money . It was pretty awesome.
I hadn't really asked a girl out for a couple months when I met Emily. I just remembered her as a cute girl in one of my classes, and left it at that for a while. There were several other girls I was thinking about, plus, I wasn't really into asking girls out anymore. It was all about hanging out at that point.
It was a pretty gradual thing, I began losing interest in the other girls, and Emily and I began talking a little bit more. I noticed that not only was she very attractive and quite stylish, but she had brains too. She literally got 100% on ever test in that class. That's when I asked "ummm do you want to study with me? (cheesy grin)"
We would study once a week, and I started getting 100% on my tests as well! That went on for several weeks, and I finally decided to ask her on a little datey date. I had started thinking it was cool if I only plan the first half of the date, and then we'd spontaneously figure out what to do after that. My reasoning is that it helped me get to know the girl better. So the part I planned was taking her to learn some latin dancing. After we were done I thought "oh, crap why didn't I plan anything?", but then we had the idea to go check the artwork around the Taylor building on campus. It was really fun, and it impressed me that she had fun with that. Typically girls her age are only interested in the latest pop song and substance deficient TV shows.
We started going on a date every week or so, and we continued to study together once a week. We didn't start hanging out every single day, to get married in a few months. Nope, we would do something twice a week, and then hang out with our roommates and other friends the other days of the week. That went on for 3 or 4 months. We still weren't even close to thinking about marriage.
During the next semester, we started hanging out a bit more. After a couple months of spending time with each other much more frequently, we eventually admitted that we could see us getting married sometime in the far, far future. A couple weeks later, we set a time frame for the next July, a little more than a year from then. See, neither one of us had been looking to get married. See, I kind of enjoyed being single, and I had always wanted to wait until I was at least 26 to get married, and I know Emily had similar feelings, especially considering her age. Well obviously our plan didn't work the way we thought it would.
To be continued....
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